I saw this term used today, referring to some clothing that someone claimed is “too expensive for the average Mum”.
It got me thinking… What makes an average Mum? Am I average? Are you average? Seriously, what is this ‘average Mum’ category?
So I’m over here thinking I’m just another ‘average Mum’, but this person who commented the above – obviously thinks I’m not. Because ironically I’m wearing the garment in question, in my Facebook profile picture. So she is average, and I’m not. Right? No, wrong.
We are on one income. My husband works to pay the bills and support us. We own a home, we have a mortgage, we pay house/contents/car/life insurances. Sounds pretty average to me – right? Yes I do some paid blog work, but I tell you – it’s far from a full time job/income, because I have children and don’t have enough time to make it one. It’s great having a little extra money – not gonna lie… and when it comes in, it is usually spent on stuff for the kids or stuff for the house that we’ve been wanting. Still sounds pretty average, yeah?
I on-sell my kids clothes that they’ve grown out of, to build up some money to purchase new stuff for the next season. Again – I’m sure this is a done thing and pretty average.
My husband and I don’t buy a lot of clothes for ourselves. I get gifted the odd garments, which I am always so grateful for. But other than that, I shop at places like Cotton On – average places.
My husband, the amazing man he is… knows how much I love the Love Knot War items I’ve been gifted in the past. So for my Birthday and Christmas he bought me a few of their dresses. He put them on layby and paid them off in small amounts as he could and so that I wouldn’t notice it in our bank statements. I had no clue! Clever, clever and average. Obviously I don’t think my husband is average, I think he’s amazing and I was blown away that he put so much thought into 3 beautiful garments – but what I’m saying is that he used a layby system just like your average jo.
My point… I’m just another ‘average Mum’. I’m just as ‘average’ as the next woman walking down the street. We’re an ‘average’ one income family just doing their best.
Actually, that’s not my point! My point is: there is no ‘average Mum’! I’m the same as the next Mum, we’re just a normal one income family doing our best. If you can’t afford that expensive dress and it’s not a priority to layby one or save for one – that’s totally cool! But please don’t put yourself in a different category to me or anyone else, and claim that you’re therefore an ‘average Mum’. Because you’re not! You’re a Mum. Full stop. You put your children above yourself, just like the rest of us. You *heart eyes* at lots of different things you’d love to buy yourself. You fill up your online shopping cart, cancel out of it, then go and buy something that your kids need. You’re a Mum, I’m a Mum.