Making family holidays a priority – With The Whittakers

After returning from our first family holiday recently, actually – make that first ever overseas holiday since Nare and I have been together… I realised that it’s something I want to do more often (read ‘more than once every 5 years!’). However – we are just your average one income family that pays a mortgage, so flitting off on an overseas holiday once a year (though sounds amazing) isn’t something we can afford to do. Yes we can save, but like lots of other families – there isn’t actually that much extra money each week, to put into savings!

I’ve been thinking about other ways that we can save some money to go towards holidays, and when I was introduced to the new Flight Centre MasterCard – I thought it was a great initiative for families like us. Now before you think ‘nooooo not a credit card Jordan!’… yes it is a credit card. And yes I feel credit cards get a bit of a bad wrap because they scream “DEBT!”. However if used in the right way I believe they can be super beneficial.

Let me explain…

For every NZ $100 you spend on your Flight Centre MasterCard – you get 1 Flight Centre Reward. When redeemed, this equates to $1 to spend on your travel. It may not seem like a lot, but it is something that you wouldn’t have had otherwise – so it actually seems silly not to do it!

I’m talking everyday purchases here… $200 of groceries = $2 towards a holiday! If you spent $200 a week on groceries, that’s a 104 Flight Centre Rewards ($104) in 1 year – and that’s just groceries! Think of all the online shopping purchases you do (well… I do), that you and I could be racking up rewards for to go towards your next family holiday. Petrol, phone bill, internet bill – the list of everyday purchases goes on (that adult life!)

I’m also not talking about getting yourself into mountain loads of debt, I’m more meaning using the Flight Centre MasterCard for everyday purchases – which you pay off regularly. Whether that be weekly, fortnightly or monthly.

The Whittakers are going to be giving this a go and seeing if we can gather up some rewards to spend on our next family holiday… where to next?

J x

To the men in our lives: what to do when we cry…

 

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  1. Ask if we are okay. We are aware it’s very much obvious that we’re not okay. But ask anyway. This gives us the opportunity to word vomit all over you about why we’re upset, who upset us, why we feel this way… even if you don’t really want to listen just nod and say “it’s okay” or “that sucks” every so often. Even if it’s not okay and it doesn’t even suck, again – we’re aware of this but it makes it sound like you care, so just roll with it.
  2. Hug us. This needs to pretty much come immediately after point 1, 90% of the time it might even need to be at the same time. We’re 0.9767 seconds away from bursting into a full blown Kim K ugly cry now, and the last thing we want is for that to happen while you’re staring us in the eye. We know – it ain’t pretty! So be quick and get in there with the hug, then we can ugly cry into your shoulder instead. Don’t worry –  we’ll wash the mascara stains out of your shirt later.
  3. Get us a treat. Chocolate, ice cream, hot drink, Lift Plus… whatever floats your gals boat – get it. ASAP. (Note: not YOUR idea of a treat either AKA “lets go to bed babe”. Don’t even think about suggesting that right now). The ugly cry is over but that doesn’t mean we’re not still dwelling on all the things we word vomited in point 2 and our head is still a foggy mess of emotions. Bonus points if we have kids and you take them out for even just half an hour, to give us a moment to breathe.
  4. The next day… The next day reassure us that you were semi listening to our emotional word vomit the day prior, a quick “Hope you have a better day today” or maybe leave a note on the bench if you leave early – don’t wake us up to say that. It’s cute, but not THAT cute.
  5. Not quite out of the woods. When you get home from work that evening (day after meltdown), ask us how our day was. I’m warning you though, this could go one of two ways. Either you will be back at point 2 very quickly… OR you will be thankfully greeted with “Better, thanks for caring babe! Lets have sex tonight.” Good luck if it goes the first way!Happy wife, happy life – am I right?

    J x

A letter to my future self

Dear Future Self,

I hope you’re well. I hope you’re busy, but also taking time to yourself for things that YOU like to do. I hope you talk to your kids often, and tell them that you love them. Even your Grandkids? Show them that you care, make time for them. But also make time for yourself. I hope you’ve been on a holiday with your husband lately, have you? If you just shook your head, then go and book one right now. Anywhere, just go.

This year, two thousand and sixteen, you bought your first home with your husband and two kids. Your life is good. It’s perfect, actually. You’re healthy, you’re a stay-at-home Mum to your two beautiful children in your amazing first home, life couldn’t be better. Your priority is your family, and that’s just the way you like it. They come first, always.

Buying your first home was scary, getting a mortgage was scary… that amount of money was SCARY! During the process you had a meeting about getting your life insurance up to date because now that you owned a home and had another baby, you would need more than before. You were asked some questions that made you think… ‘if you died, would your husband be able to take time off to look after the kids?’, ‘Would he be able to be off work and continue paying the mortgage?’, ‘Would you even want him to have to pay the mortgage?’ ‘What would happen if you got too sick to care for your kids?’. You hadn’t thought about these kinds of things before. You got flustered and teary during the meeting, thinking of all the ‘what ifs’. You were told that there wasn’t anything you could do to change the future, but be prepared and ensure that things would be well looked after if anything did happen. So that’s what you did.

It was a weight off your shoulders.

Future Self, know that some days are difficult. They are riddled with self-doubt and fear. But don’t fret, don’t dwell on it… go outside and get some fresh air, tell yourself how awesome you are, and continue to be the amazing person that you strive to be.

Spend time with people that build you up, that make you happy. Don’t waste time on negative people that will only bring you down, you don’t need them in your life. Be content with what you have, don’t compare yourself to others. Be envious and encouraging instead of jealous and bitter.

And most of all… love harder.

J x


Thinking and writing this made me feel so at peace with the fact that I know my future self, and my family in the future, will always be looked after. Did you know that New Zealanders are amongst the most under insured populations in the world? Isn’t that terrible? We either don’t have it or we don’t have the right type of cover. I get it – it’s hard to spend money on something that doesn’t “give you anything back” but, for the cost of a bottle of wine a month, you could secure your future. It’s really that simple.

So my question to YOU is: will your future self be looked after? If the answer is NO then I highly recommend you click HERE which will take you through to Sovereign’s website where you can find out more information on the types of cover you need. Make it happen, guys. I know it’s one of those ‘things’ that gets shoved to the end of the ‘to do’ list, but please take some time to get it sorted – your future self won’t regret it!

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